Anonymous: What are the signs of emotional abuse?






Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.

Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.

Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.

Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.

Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.

Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,

Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.

Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.

Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.

Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.

Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.

Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.

Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.

Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.

Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.

Love, Salem

The last one is a killer and very important.

this is extremely important tw #abuse

Always reblob.

No longer walking on eggshells and being able to be completely me has been an amazing transition in my life.




Questions I may or may not want to be asked:

  1. 1. What can you see that is blue besides your tumblr dashboard?
  2. 2. What have you eaten today?
  3. 3. What is your favorite food?
  4. 4. What is your favorite color?
  5. 5. What is your least favorite color?
  6. 6. Who was your last kiss with? Was it pleasant?
  7. 7. What color shoes did you last wear?
  8. 8. What is your biggest vice?
  9. 9. Who has made you laugh the hardest in the last week?
  10. 10. What is your favorite scent?
  11. 11. What is your occupation? Do you enjoy it?
  12. 12. What is your favorite season? Why?
  13. 13. Can you do a handstand or cartwheel?
  14. 14. What color are your nails?
  15. 15. If you had to get a tattoo on your face to save your life, what would it be?
  16. 16. Describe your bedroom.
  17. 17. What is something you find romantic?
  18. 18. On average, how many hours per day do you spend on your computer?
  19. 19. Are you happy?
  20. 20. Is there anything in particular making you happy or sad?
  21. 21. Dogs or Cats?
  22. 22. Which do you prefer: a museum, a night club, the forest or a library?
  23. 23. What is your style?
  24. 24. If you could be doing anything you like right now, what would it be?
  25. 25. Who is the closest person to you?
  26. 26. What is the best movie you have ever seen?
  27. 27. Are you in a relationship or single?
  28. 28. What makes you attracted to the person you like right now?
  29. 29. If you could replace your partner/best friend with a celebrity of your choice, would you? Who with?
  30. 30. What is something most people don't know about you?
  31. 31. Are you holding on to something you need to let go of?
  32. 32. How did you celebrate last Halloween?
  33. 33. Have you recently made any big decisions?
  34. 34. Name three things that you and the person asking you this question have in common.
  35. 35. Were you ever in a school play?
  36. 36. What movie would you use to describe your life?
  37. 37. Is there something you have dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?
  38. 38. Complete this sentence, "I wish I had someone with whom I could share..."
  39. 39. If you could invent a new flavor of ice cream, what would it be?
  40. 40. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
  41. 41. Who is a famous person you have been compared to?
  42. 42. What are two things that irritate you about the same sex?
  43. 43. What are two things that irritate you about the opposite sex?
  44. 44. What is the best thing that has happened to you this week?
  45. 45. What is something that makes you sad when you think about it?
  46. 46. Would you rather be stranded on a desert island with someone you love for ten years, or someone you hate for one month?
  47. 47. How long was your longest relationship?
  48. 48. Have you ever been in love?
  49. 49. Are you currently in love?
  50. 50. Why did your last relationship end?
  51. 51. Would you rather live in a castle or a spaceship?
  52. 52. What jewellery are you wearing right now, and where did you get it?
  53. 53. Name three things which attracted you to your current crush.
  54. 54. Is there something you have been keeping a secret?
  55. 55. When was the last time you cried and why?
  56. 56. Name someone pretty.
  57. 57. Do you have an ex who's name starts with a "J"?
  58. 58. What did you receive last Valentines Day?
  59. 59. Do you get jealous easily?
  60. 60. Do you believe in the phrase, "If its meant to be, it will be?"
  61. 61. Have you ever cheated on someone?
  62. 62. Have you ever been cheated on?
  63. 63. Do you trust your partner/best friend?
  64. 64. What is something you should be doing right now? Go do it.


"all gays will go to hell"

oh noooo…. what will i do… surrounded with ……. nothing ……. but other homosexuals……….. u win this round……… god

Anonymous: Iggy

She’s got a lovely body!!

put a celebrity in my ask and i’ll give them a compliment, no matter how problematic they are